Have some fun…
As you move on in life, letting go of the past is not easy but try to stay positive and build for a better future for yourself. Make your next chapter of life a positive one for you and for those around you.
Joining a gym/social group
Starting on evening class
Getting a hobby
Visiting family & friends
Re-connect with the ‘old’ you, update facebook/emails and talk to your friends
Sort your possessions out and clear the junk
Re-utilising your wardrobe
Re-style your hair
Plan an adventure – big or small
Focus on where you want to be and how you will get there
Voluntary work/career changes/time out
You cannot change the past, what has happened is now in your personal history it is part of you and what makes you who you are and how you will be. You have done all that you could and all that is legally possible to gain the best outcome for you. However, if you are finding this outcome difficult to accept, you may like to consider the following:
Local Support Groups
Moving on & new relationships
Starting again can be daunting, you maybe single but you are not alone.Be aware that living with someone is regarded at law completely differently to being married.
Seek advice before you purchase a property with anyone else or invest your money into their home. In most cases your position and money can be safeguarded by a simply drafted, regulated agreement. Know your risks and where or indeed if you risk losing or depleting your financial resources.
You may choose to help your children with their property and may consider “annexe” living
in a jointly owned home, again your input in a legally binding agreement that sets out exactly what Is owned by who.
You have experienced the divorce process, if your child was unfortunate enough to encounter the same and you have advanced them money in exchange use of their home and a right to live there, a deed between you and them and their spouse can assist in the identification of your input and your legal/equitable interest in your home.
Life is complicated enough already but a clear agreement that sets out where everyone is and address the ‘what if’s’ can give you and then peace of mind now and clarity in the future. We all hope that no dispute would arise and agreements reached can also reflect your wishes and feelings for inheritance purposes again, avoiding potential conflict between your children (if you have more than one) in the event of your incapacity, move to nursing care or in the event of your death.
Or alternatively, you may grow happy in your own company, living on your own terms...